My friend is unwell, and I feel I should be there to support him – drink tea, sit in silence if need be. Why do I feel this way? Part of me wants to feel like a saviour; someone he might reflect back on later and say, “She stayed while no one else did”. I don’t like this as a reason to care: it is self-centred. But I also hope that one day, when I’m in need and not much fun to hang out with, my friend will come and drink tea and sit in silence with me. This, to me, is about reciprocity: it says that your destiny is intertwined with mine. It is the togetherness at the root of this motivation that makes me believe it is wholesome. I guess I have mixed motivations – not unusual, given I am human. I think it’s best we drink the tea.